Tonight I decided to take a break from bedazzling a bra for my upcoming burlesque performance to check some email (and pull the dried glue from my fingertips). As I scanned my inbox, I found an old email with a link to a website article titled: Sex Bucket List: 244 Things You Must Do Before You Die.
Any girl who’s read one issue of Cosmo (and it’s hard to find a girl under the age of 12 who hasn’t) knows that any article with a number in the title will teach her at least one thing she doesn’t already know. LOL – not really, there’s just something about those numbers that grabs our attention.
So even though I’ve already written a piece about my own sexual bucket list, I took the bait and clicked…and learned a couple of things. First, I’ve engaged in a fair amount of these already. (Which means I’m either very experienced sexually or that I’m old. Or both.) The second thing I learned is that there is a lot of sexual shit a person can do over a lifetime. Some of these things I would have never thought of in a million years.
How many of these things have you done? What would you like to do? What is something you would NEVER do? I’ll go first and put an X next to those items I’ve already checked off my list.
- Wake your partner up with a handjob/fingering ×
- Kiss a girl ×
- Sex with a celebrity
- Sex without kissing ×
- Loud, vocal, screaming sex ×
- Masturbate ×
- Finger yourself ×
- Use a vibrator ×
- Use a dildo ×
- Insert a butt plug/anal beads while masturbating
- Use Ben Wa balls ×
- Masturbate to porn ×
- Masturbate in candlelight ×
- Take someones viriginity ×
- Have a one night stand ×
- Get a fuck buddy – You’ll probably need to be single for this! ×
- Sex with someone old enough to be your dad/mom
- Sex with someone young enough to be your son/daughter – Remember to keep it legal!
- Sex with someone of a different race ×
- Sex with someone who speaks a different language to you
- Sex with someone smaller than you
- Sex with someone taller than you
- Resistance sex – You act like you don’t want it while your man gropes, touches and molests you (don’t forget to use a safe word)
- Sex with an escort
- Sex with an Olympic athlete
- Sex beside/under a large waterfall
- Sex with a complete stranger
- Listen to music on your stereo while having sex ×
- Go see a male strip show
- Have break up sex ×
- Finger yourself or masturbate in front of someone without them knowing what you are doing – Try to keep it legal!
- Go skinny dipping ×
- Try every sex position
- Try anal sex ×
- Send/receive dirty text messages aka sex messages ×
- Make a homemade porno – Trust is crucial if you make your own porno. You obviously don’t want it getting online!
- Send/receive dirty pictures of each other – Again trust is crucial if you do this. You probably don’t want the whole world seeing naked pictures of you. ×
- Talk dirty to each other ×
- Have phone sex ×
- Have Skype sex / cyber sex ×
- Have snail mail sex – You can do this even if you live together, it makes for a very sexy surprise
- Sex in the shower ×
- Sex in the ocean ×
- Sex on a beach – Bring a rug! Sand getting where it’s not supposed to be can be very painful.
- Sex in a car ×
- Give your man a blowjob while he is driving – Unfortunately it’s hard for him to return the favor and eat you out while you are driving ×
- Give your guy a handjob/finger your girl while they are driving ×
- Sex in an elevator
- Sex in the rain
- Sex in the desert
- Use ice/frozen berries in your mouth while giving oral sex
- Sex in a hotel room ×
- Sex in every room in your house
- Sex in a forest ×
- Sex in a department store changing room
- Sex in public ×
- Sex while wearing lingerie ×
- Sex while in costume ×
- Eat food off each other – Whipped cream and fruit is great for this (but a little sticky). Anything oily or fishy is not, it stinks. ×
- Give your partner oral sex using syrup, cream, honey, lube or some other liquid on their genitals ×
- Masturbate in front of each other ×
- Mutually masturbate each other. He fingers you while you give him a handjob ×
- Sex while blindfolded ×
- Sex with restraints – Arms tied behind back or tied to the bed or tied and bent over a chair/table. Don’t forget to swap roles! ×
- Spank and get spanked by hand ×
- Make out in front of others in a busy place ×
- Play strip poker
- Sex on a boat – The smaller the better. Sex on a cruise ship is easy as everyone has a cabin. Sex on a dinghy on the other hand… ×
- Use a vibrator during sex ×
- Use a dildo during sex ×
- Use a butt plug during sex
- Toe sucking – You might want to wash them first!
- Use anal beads during sex
- Put a cock ring on your man during sex – Vibrating cock ring optional ×
- Use a chastity device for at least a day before sex – On yourself, your partner or both of you
- Use nipple clamps during sex – On you or on your partner or on both of you ×
- Experiment with breath play during sex – Remember to be super safe if you plan on doing this.
- Use ear plugs during sex – Use them to block your/his nose too for extra sensory deprivation
- Sex in the workplace
- Mile high club – Sex on a plane
- Blowjob/Cunnilingus ×
- Suck, kiss & lick your guy’s balls/Suck, kiss & lick your girl’s labia ×
- Give a guy deep throat/Penetrate your girl deeply with your tongue ×
- Handjob/Fingering ×
- Ass fingering
- Prostate massage – Unfortunately there is no equivalent for girls
- Give each other a regular massage and then finish it off with a happy ending ×
- Have sex while others watch ×
- Devil’s threesome – 1 girl and 2 guys ×
- FFM threesome – 2 girls and 1 guy ×
- Have a moresome – Sex with more than 3 people ×
- Go to a swingers party ×
- Sex while drunk ×
- Sex on a mild altering substance – Try to keep it legal!
- Go on a date with a skirt, but wearing no panties/briefs ×
- Go on a date without a bra – Unfortunately there is no equivalent for guys ×
- Go on a date with neither a bra or panties – Again there is no equivalent for guys ×
- Go on a date wearing only 1 item of clothing besides your shoes – Would be interested if any guys have actually done this ×
- Footjob
- Hair pulling during sex
- Use a whip, paddle, riding crop, flogger or belt to spank/flog your partner – Don’t forget to be on the receiving end too!
- Get/Leave marks the next day after getting whipped
- Rim job – also called analingus
- Strap on – Also called pegging
- Wear heels/boots and nothing else in bed – Guys can wear cowboy boots ×
- Striptease ×
- Sex on the balcony of a very tall building
- Sex while watching porn ×
- Sex while using a Swiss ball/yoga ball – The Swiss Miss sex position is a great start
- Go to a strip club and get a lap dance – Optionally take your partner ×
- Read erotica together and then act out your favorite sex scenes – Remember, you’re not reading it for the prose, it’s to get ideas for your sex life!
- Pearl necklace – When a guy ejaculates onto your neck ×
- Get a facial ×
- Snow-capped mountains– When a guy ejaculates onto your ass ×
- Swallow your man’s load ×
- Love biting
- Sex in an abandoned building ×
- Sex with the same person in at least 10 States or countries
- Sex with someone who speaks a foreign language
- Sex with someone else while your partner watches you ×
- Watch your partner having sex with someone else ×
- Have a quickie ×
- Let your partner suck your breasts like a nursing a baby ×
- Sex in silence ×
- Handjob/blowjob/fingering at the movies
- Sex in a nightclub/restaurant/bar/pub/public bathroom
- Sex at a music festival/concert
- Sex on the altar of a church
- Silent disco sex – Sex with both of you wearing headphones, listening to your favorite music
- Sex with an elected representative – local city council, state senate, even Congress counts!
- Rape roleplay
- Sex in your parents’ house ×
- Sex in your parents bed
- Use fruit/vegetables or other items to penetrate yourself or your partner with
- Use a fucking machine
- Go to a munch with your partner – A meetup for your local BDSM community
- Read and participate in http://reddit.com/r/sex – A great online community to discover, learn and help others improve their sex lives
- Read awesome sex blogs like Sexperts Lounge, Tiny Nibbles and listen to the Savage Love Podcast × (Or write one!)
- Try every position from the Kama Sutra
- Learn how to female ejaculate/squirt – Includes your guy learning how to make you ejaculate ×
- Tell each other your fantasies – Don’t forget to act them out too! ×
- Try some roleplaying fantasies with your man – This is perfect before transitioning to your own fantasies
- Wear a gag during sex
- Kissing in the rain
- Sex in front of a roaring fire ×
- Roleplay choking during sex. Just make sure that you do it safely.
- Play with his balls during sex/Rub her clit during sex (Doggy style is the perfect position for this) ×
- Sensory deprivation during sex – ear plugs, ear plugs in nose, blindfold, mitts, restrained ×
- Wear a collar (not a shirt collar! More like a dog collar)
- Use a leash and collar
- Sex in complete darkness ×
- Be a maid/butler for a day for your partner, serving their every need
- Keep a private blog about your sexcapades with your partner (remember privacy and trust are crucial here) × (Does a public blog count?)
- Sex in front of a mirror ×
- Use handcuffs during sex – On you, on your partner or used to tie you both together
- Have rough sex ×
- Sex without touching each other once with your hands
- Have a sex weekend – Stay in a really nice hotel, order room service and rarely leave your room for the whole weekend
- Sex with a foreigner
- Sex in a foreign country ×
- Surprise your partner with strawberries and champagne
- Sex on something vibrating – A washing machine or car hood both work well for this. ×
- Sex when other people are in the room – They don’t have to know about it though!
- Sex on a train
- Sex to the rhythm of a metronome – It’s a gadget that sways back and forth and makes a ‘tic’ sound each time. It’s often used by musicians
- Sex with at least 2 different people in one day ×
- Sex under the stars ×
- Sex under the sun ×
- Arrive to your man’s house in only heels/boots and a coat. Guys can use cowboy boots here
- Be a submissive sex slave to your partner for a night
- Climax at the same time
- Be a dominant mistress/master of your partner for a night
- Sex at a drive-in movie ×
- Have multiple orgasms during sex – Definitely a tough one for guys! ×
- Slowly rub ice over each other (think sensitive areas)
- Try queening with your partner
- Super-slow, sensual sex ×
- Make up sex ×
- Write erotica that features you and your partner – Don’t forget to get them to read it! ×
- Sex more than 7 times in one day
- Go to a sex club ×
- Answer the door naked to your partner
- Go to a sex show ×
- Go to a sex convention ×
- Try fisting, either receiving or giving
- Use a remote controlled sex toy in public on yourself and each other ×
- Have over 2 hours of foreplay before you have sex
- Wake your partner up with a blowjob/cunnlingus ×
- Wake your partner up to full on sex
- Sex with someone of the same sex ×
- Tit fucking/camel wank ×
- Use your nails on your partner’s back during sex ×
- Sex at a friend’s house party
- Slap your partner across the face during sex – Don’t forget to get slapped too
- Bite lips when kissing
- Bite your partner’s neck, arms, hands, ear lobes, genitals and the rest of their body – Just remember that some areas are more sensitive than others
- Orgasm Control – Control when your partner is allowed to orgasm and vice-versa
- Sex in a sex sling ×
- Sex in a tree house – Obviously make sure that there are no kids around!
- Sex with a member of the clergy
- Sex on furniture designed specifically for sex ×
- Squeeze/Massage/Fondle your partner’s genitals – Make sure to start off gently ×
- Be double penetrated by your man and a sex toy
- Be double penetrated by 2 men
- Airlock – Double penetrated and giving a blowjob at the same time
- Grope your partner in public ×
- Be groped in public ×
- Post naked pictures of you (& your partner) online – Just remember that once you post something online, it’s going to be there forever! ×
- Take pole dancing/stripping classes ×
- Sex against a wall
- Sex on the floor ×
- Sex on a couch – The Sofa Spoon position is perfect for this ×
- Give a birthday blowjob/cunnilingus ×
- Kiss your partner for hours without having sex
- Kiss, suck, squeeze, pinch and blow on your partner’s nipples ×
- Have an orgasm with the help of your partner without them touching your genitals – This can be very hard for guys to achieve unless they have their prostate massage
- Kiss your partner on the backs of their elbows and knees
- Kiss your partner all over their back for more than 10 mins – Using just your lips, no hands or massaging
- Rub and massage the perineum – This is the patch of skin between the testicles/vagina and the anus ×
- Have sex in a room full of hundreds of candles – Just make sure that nothing can accidentally catch fire
- Use a pair of sex dice
- Lunchtime sex when working
- Play some fun sex games
- Pin your partner to the bed and don’t let them get away without getting what you want – Just make sure your partner is consenting!
- Wash each other in the shower – Optional Extra: Get into the shower wearing only a light, white t-shirt that will become see through when it’s wet. ×
- Wash your partner in a bath – You’ll find that most bathtubs are too small to both fit in there, so you’ll need to stand out of the bath ×
- Receive oral sex while you are on the phone ×
- Sex in a hot tub/Jacuzzi ×
- Sex right after the gym
- Tell your partner what you like most about their body ×
- Minty mouthwash before oral sex x
- Eat some food with aphrodisiac properties – Chocolate, oysters, champagne are a great start x
- Undress each other ×
- Stare into each others eyes for 5 mins without breaking eye contact – Don’t forget to blink though!
- Ass pinching – Try squeezing his ass right as he’s cums. Don’t forget to do it randomly during the day too!
- Interlock your fingers with your partner’s during sex ×
- Use your mouth to put a condom on your man
- Burn incense during sex
- Spitroast (OK, can someone tell me what this is???) x
- Spend the whole day naked together
- Tell your partner, “Do whatever you want to me.” Just remember to use a safe word!
- Challenge your man to see who can go the longest without sex (the sexual tension will both drive you crazy with desire!)
- Sex in a tunnel – A cave counts too!
- Oh yeah, I almost forgot……Lose your virginity ×
Okay, readers, your turn now. I’m going to go pour a glass of wine and get back to bedazzling. Can’t wait to see your list. :-)
